Joan On Sex: A married woman wants me as her secret lover

Hello Joan, I am Dusu. My ex girlfriend is married and I got to know about it only recently. The thing is that I still love her despite she's married. I told her about it, she was like “it's OK we can be secret lovers”. But I don't want her marriage to fall apart. But in reality, we both love each other. Please what should I do?

Dear Dusu,

Just for the fact that she chose someone else as her husband should tell you something -- she has moved on to something better. So my dear friend, leave her alone! After all, she was your ex! Do not get involved with someone's property (wife). Even the bible condemns it. If she weren't married, it could have been a different story.

Hello Joan, I'm El-Karags. I have a girlfriend who is an ss3 student and I'm a 200 level student in the university. All of a sudden, she just quit talking to me and stopped answering my calls. I tried to find the reason for the sudden change, but its getting worse. Please I need your advice on what to do...

Dear, El-Karags,

Its either you stay and make it work with all you've got or you move on with  your young life. Love isn't too hard or difficult to enjoy its benefits. Talk to her and let her tell you what is the problem. If she's into the relationship or not. Make sure you have this conversation untill she tells  you her reasons for her behaviour. Untill then, please have patience.

Hi Joan, I am in a relationship with this beautiful girl and we are actually engaged. However she is two years older than me. We really have kept our relationship going through ups and downs. Is it okay to go ahead and marry her considering the age difference? How we tell our parents, or do we have to?What do you advice. Thank you!

Dear Uyime,

Age is nothing compared to how much you love someone. I mean, she's just two years older not 10! I really don't see anything wrong with loving or marrying her. Tell your parents that. Fight for someone you deserve. Age is just numbers. Feelings matter.

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Love y'all

Joan.